Pillow Talk: Sensual and Sexual Vitality after 50


Reclaiming Our Power: Rocking Mid-Life Transition

Mid-Life transition is not necessarily associated with feeling empowered in this culture, especially for women. However, according to Dr. Christiane Northrup in "The Wisdom of Menopause," mid-life can be a potent time of change for women--for the better! On September 18, I will begin teaching a four-part class in which ...

By trail5runner

August 31, 2017 2:50 p.m. read more..

Write Your Own Script for Menopause!

Our culture tells us much about how we’re “supposed to be” during and after menopause. Join Sexologist and Certified Sex Coach for this six-part series in which we’ll toss out our cultural scripts and build our own reality as empowered menopausal/post-menopausal women!

By trail5runner

June 12, 2017 4:15 p.m. read more..


Erectile Dysfunction: Strategies for a Hard Topic

Issues with erectile strength and predictability can impact a couple's love life, though there are more solutions than our culture would have you believe. From expanding definitions of "sex" to include practices other than intercourse, to experimenting with products such as "guybrators" and cock rings, men can find wonderful options that allow continued pleasure and connectivity in an aging body!

By trail5runner

November 25, 2016 2:50 p.m. read more..

Empowerment through Information

Seniors seeking accurate and knowledgeable information about sexuality and intimacy have two great resources in Eugene: Planned Parenthood and As You Like It, Eugene's only sexual wellness center and store. Read how these two organizations can meet your needs for information in a culture that largely dismisses senior sexuality.

By trail5runner

November 9, 2016 9:06 a.m. read more..

The Gifts of Healing

For some women, passing on sex after menopause is a mindful choice that serves them well. For others, avoiding sex may be a way to sidestep important healing work. Ignoring past traumas may seem like the easier choice, yet according to at least one expert, it may have harmful consequences.

By trail5runner

October 27, 2016 2:41 p.m. read more..

Senior Sex Education: Seeking Students!

On the cutting edge of fact-based, non-judgmental sex education, Planned Parenthood of Southwest Oregon even offers senior sex education classes--yet sign-up has been less than robust. The need for information is evident. So, where are the students?

By trail5runner

October 12, 2016 10:47 a.m. read more..

You and Your Health Care Provider

For a variety of reasons, health care providers may not be prepared to discuss sexual health issues with seniors. In this blog, I share a variety of ways in which seniors can take charge of their sexual health and initiate positive discussions with providers.

By trail5runner

September 28, 2016 11:08 a.m. read more..

Part III: Spicy Sexuality After 50: What Every Woman Should Know

Remaining sexual and orgasmic beyond menopause is a viable choice, contrary to cultural messaging, and use of bioidentical hormones (unless medically contraindicated), vibrators, and erotica can go a long way to helping retain orgasm strength. If sexual touch is no longer desired, it is important for people to get regular non-sexual touch to stay healthy, and to feel vital, valued and loved.

By trail5runner

June 6, 2016 10:38 a.m. read more..


Spicy Sexuality After 50: What Every Woman Should Know, Part I

There is a tremendous range of sexual expression in women over 50, from women who feel done with sex, to women who are highly sexual. For the women who wish to be sexual after 50, resources, information and support can be scarce! In Part I of this blog series, I explore some common impediments to sexual enjoyment and how a woman who desires sexual engagement can overcome them.

By trail5runner

May 5, 2016 11:46 a.m. read more..

Pleasure over Performance

In a culture that over-emphasizes performance, sexual encounters after 50 can be fraught with stress if the focus remains on intercourse. In this essay, I propose that couples expand their sexual practices to emphasize mutual pleasure, connectivity, intimacy and shared eroticism for greater satisfaction.

By trail5runner

April 26, 2016 8:05 a.m. read more..

Choosing Vitality, Choosing Ourselves

Some people over 50 have grown up with the belief that older people shouldn't have sex, that they are no longer attractive to others and that with changing bodies, sex isn't all that appealing. Science and experience tells us otherwise! Choosing to be sexual and accepting sexuality as it is, can be the ticket to enjoying one's sexuality far beyond what culture indicates is "appropriate."

By trail5runner

April 8, 2016 7:42 a.m. read more..

Sexually Empowered at 50 and Beyond!

Sex after 50 is often a forbidden topic and sexually active seniors may not have access to important information that could enable them to retain (or reclaim) vital, healthy sexual and sensual expression. In this first "Pillow Talk," blog, I discuss my background and reasons for getting senior sexuality out in the open.

By trail5runner

March 25, 2016 11:37 a.m. read more..

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